The Maiden in Blue wrote:
1st of all, is it better to write on paper or on the computer? Will publishers accept it in written form?
 I don't know if they accept handwritten manuscripts or not. Aratrea's point is valid, though: typing will save a TON of time, and it's much easier to delete passages or rewrite sentences as you're going along.
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
2: How do I get my writing noticed?
Besides friends and family, one of the best ways is to join a forum or two (like HW!), where you can share your work and receive feedback.
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
3: When wanting to get a publisher, is it best to get an editor first? And if so do any of you who are already published have any suggestions?
This one I'm not sure of. You certainly want a polished manuscript to submit to an agent, but I'm not sure if that means you have to hire a professional editor. The publishing company should provide that service.
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
4: What will the average cost for an editor be?
From what I understand, you have two choices: hire one yourself or let your publishing company provide the service. If you work with an editor, the cost will be based on the length of your book. I've seen some people charge by the hour (which can be dicey if the person is lazy) and others charge per word, anywhere from $0.2 to $0.8 per word.
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
5: Is it better to try and self publish?
I've done a ton of research on publishing, and after waffling back and forth for a couple years, I decided that self publishing was a better route for me. It depends on what your goals are. Getting a traditionally published book can take years, especially if you don't have connections with agents or publishers. Plus, unless it's a really killer book, having an agent won't help (assuming they chose to work with you at all). This is more primarily for the bigger publishing firms.
From my perspective, self publishing is the best route for first-time authors. It might be easier to land a deal with a small publishing firm, but that won't gain you much exposure. Even if you do publish a book traditionally, if you're not a well-known author, the marketing is basically up to you. That's why I decided to do it myself, since if there wasn't going to be any publicizing done for me, I would just as soon have control of the entire process. This works better for people who are motivated enough to put in the work self publishing requires; and believe me, there is a lot of work involved. The upside is that you don't have to wait for a deal that might never happen, and you control the process.
One option in the self publishing vein is to put out ebooks. I decided to go this route for two reasons. First, it doesn't cost anything to print an ebook. All you have to do is upload it to the major distributors like Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Smashwords. If you're on a budget, not paying for priting physical copies is a big advantage. 
Second, the process is more simplified. Instead of hiring a company to print your book, you can do it yourself (as long as you have a word processor). 
This is a DIY approach, but one worth taking if you have the time, energy, and willingness to focus. You have to obtain a cover for the ebook, which can mean creating one yourself or paying someone. Formatting is another necessary step, and if you're not good at this, again, you can hire someone. The most important step besides the cover, is the editing phase. It's an absolute must if you want to have a successful book. Then there's the marketing aspect, which includes building an author platform, blogging, joining forums, the list goes on.
In my humble (and admittedly biased) opinion, printing an ebook is much easier and cost effective than self publishing a physical book. There are plenty of printers out there who can do this, but I think the drawbacks are more than they're worth. You have to beware of scams, where such companies rip you off and you end up paying a handsome fee for a terrible book. And whatever you do, 
don't pay someone else to publish your book. If they're a serious publishing company (not the same as printing), they should be willing to pay you. Their money is made from book sales, not the author's pocket.
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
6: If I'm going to try to get published with a professional what all would be the process in doing so?
First you have to look for an agent to represent you, as sending an unsolitcited query letter to a publishing house will get you nowhere. Bear in mind that acquiring an agent is nearly as difficult. Make sure you do some research and target agents in your genre.
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
7: For you who published, did you get to pick your own cover? Or did they pick that for you?
I haven't been published by a publishing company, but Aratrea's comment was basically accurate. I heard that some companies give you more say than others. 
The Maiden in Blue wrote:
8: Did you ever attend writing conferences? And were they helpful? 
Any helpful insight would be most welcome on my part.
Not as of yet, but I'm thinking I might want to. One consideration would be to join a writer's guild in your area, which a friend of mine said helped him more than any writings classes he's ever taken (although that was for poetry I think).